The mood changes – sometimes good mood and sometimes bad. Do you know that this occurs around 3-4 times daily, even though nothing strange happens around? During holiday season people are driven by emotions, such frequent mood changes can be observed all around.
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To combat such mood swings millions of Americans depend upon pills. According to a report, in 2011 nearly $11 billion worth of depression medications were sold. For more chronic disorders like manic-depressive illness and hallucinations, another $18 billion worth of drugs was added to revenue.
Besides this million of people who are influenced by mild yet uncomfortable moody behaviors tend to make bad decisions like messing with family members or selling a stock that is undervalued. These small mental conditions are usually not brought for medications.
Steven Berglas, a renowned psychologist practicing for 30 years and also a former professor at Harvard Medical School has done lots of research on the subject. Berglas provides expert advice to keep the malevolent on track and also get rid of it. He has helped several sportspeople and top business people fight the stress and other emotional disturbances out of life.
Practice makes everything perfect, so is the mood. It needs proper practice to tame the mood. A person can choose any method to master moodiness but this need to be done quickly as there are chances of agitation coming into the role. Keeping patience is most important, Berglas advice.
Have An Analytical View Of What You See
The viewpoint is a prime factor of distress. The same thing is observed by two persons in two different ways. The things which are not true appear to be true to mind and which aid in a change of mood leading to bad decisions.
Berglas caveats to stay away from these 5 distortions:
- Black & White Thinking
In this type of distortion, people want to be perfect or think themselves as a failure, no second thoughts. This type of polarized thoughts makes family life disturbed and unsuccessful.
Solution: Humans are not computers that only deal with binary numbers. For everything, a context should be mapped to any rough number. If there is a failure in reaching an optimum business level, think of last accountable big thing in business.
- Too Much Generalized Thoughts
Generalized thoughts come out easy but the inference leads to irrational things like negative thoughts. This builds a base for more mental disturbances.
Solution: Stay away from the old mindset (This can be your’s or of others) that is built on clueless stats. In the real practical example, single data point has no meaning until and unless it is combined with others to make a sense. Take the example of sportspersons who don’t quit because of a single mistake.
- Forecasting Errors
This mental condition arises when you don’t have information about any particular event which is very important and you conclude that the news will be always positive. You have applied for an important business license and when it gets delayed you feel worried due to no information and console by assuming that news will be good.
Solution: Do not assume all news are good, try to stay real and practical. Working on a backup plan is a prepared approach this helps you make wise decisions and will stop you from getting panic.
- Generalizing any and every Thing On Personal Grounds
Whenever anything bad happens to the people around us, we tend to take it on personal grounds. They refer certain bad incident happened to somebody and conclude that this will definitely happen to them also. This is an example of stealthy distortion.
Solution: Do not react harshly to any situation. Always keep in mind that you are not the center of bad incidents. Be obliged to Almighty God.
- External Influencers
Bad moods are created because of externalization, having no second thought to find the actual source of distortion. A simple real life example can be taken from a person who has gone overweight. When physician alarms about the situation one thinks the doctor is preventing from taking favorite food and ultimately indicating to some diabetic condition. The same thing when alarmed by girlfriend becomes a subject of humiliation and agony.
Solution: Do not make simple things crazy. The problem needs to be fixed by putting best effort. Always try to get the support of your well-wishers instead of disregarding them for the questionable situation.
6. Act Rather Than Think Your Way
Berglas indicates that one should act your way to come out of a situation rather than think your way.
To understand this fact let’s learn about the James-Lange theory of emotions which is developed by renowned psychologists (19th century) William James and Carl Lange. According to this theory, emotions are outcomes of any idea or experience. For example, you hesitate to speak on a stage and face crowd because you tend to stammer. Running out of a situation can change moods.
This theory of emotion also works in reverse situation. The mood aligns itself to the way our body moves.
A research was conducted in which two groups of people were called upon and false electrodes were attached to their lips and chins. One group was asked to make a smiley face while another group was asked to make a sorrowful face. After some time both groups were handed over comic strips and electrode was taken out. The research concluded that the group with smiley face enjoyed comic strip more than the group with sad faces. So, this proves that act always drives mind behavior.
Based on the theory, let’s summarize 5 acts that can help you out of bad mood:
- Prepare Your Inner Self
There are certain acts like showing boldness. Walk with straight head and body and see in the eyes of the people. According to Berglas, this will help in boosting inner self and positive thoughts will develop. This gets more boosting when you receive admiration from others, for your strengths, either by speaking or just a gesture of respect.
- Lose Some Weight
Berglas advice that going to the gym is a good act as it boosts your spirits but to some extent only. When bad mood arrives it can spoil vigor and performance, so lose some weight at a time. Yoga heals physically .emotionally and mentally. Yoga not only increases concentration but also inner willpower without telling you so. If done with sincerity, negative thoughts cannot touch you in yoga practice at least. Balancing poses will increase willpower and stretching helps to get you into warrior mode hence radiance comes from within.
- Less Intake Of Drinks
While taking one or two glasses of cocktails can pacify the nerves and people start feeling less anxious. But as it is said that too much of anything can destroy fruitful outcomes. In this case, once the person starts taking more glasses of drink another distortion conditions appear called as dysphoria which washes away the positive benefits.
- Do A Thorough Cleaning
There is some self-defeating mindset like “I won’t be able to complete the task anyhow I try”, leads to bad moods. One should be away from emotional acts, try to sanitize the old fashioned thoughts. Try by completing a task which you left one year ago. This will boost your mood and provide energy to complete the important stuff.
- Offer A Help
You can offer a help to a person, complete a task. As per Berglas, it has two advantages. The first thing is the quality time spent with the person helps to overcome the troublesome things. Secondly, the feedback of the person boosts up the morale.
Edited with love by Deepti Chawla – Our Editor