Life always gives you a second chance, and there might be no bigger regret than passing on the chance to finally make your dreams come true…
Something similar happened with Mrs. Neetika Grover, who couldn’t fulfill her dream of being a model earlier in life, but when she got a chance to finally live her dream, she fought tooth and nail to make it come true.
SOS: So, Neetika, tell our readers something about your life!
NG: I was born and brought up in New Delhi, from where I did my schooling and later, one year course of Computerized Financial Management. I started my professional life quite early during my graduation days when at the age of 18, I started working with a construction company. It was during this job that I got my MBA in Marketing, which was later accompanied by an IT course.
It was in 2012 when I realized that I was cut out for bigger things, and this realization prompted me to quit my job and start my own business of non-civil construction.
I have been married for more than three years now, and we have blessed with a son around two years ago.
SOS: Great! But in your introduction, nowhere did you mention that you are also a beauty pageant winner. Why?
NG: You caught me right! I didn’t mention anything about that because I like to believe that my life as a student, a professional, a wife and a mother is completely different from that of a beauty pageant winner, which is why I mention the latter part separately.
So, it was early 2017 that I was crowned the first runner-up for Mrs. Delhi NCR, while also being awarded the title of “Most Beautiful Eyes.”
SOS: Did you always want to take part in fashion shows and walk ramps?
NG: I think every girl has this dream once in her life, that she is decked up like a princess and people are appreciating her beauty. Even I had this dream since childhood, but my father was strictly against all this showbiz, which is why I never even gave it a try. I have lived my life with a simple philosophy that while making your dreams come true, no one should get hurt, and the person in question here was my own father, which is why I dropped the idea of being a model. However, after I got married and told my husband about this long-forgotten dream, he said that he would support me in all ways possible.
SOS: So how did the journey begin then?
NG: I was scrolling on a social networking site when I read about a beauty pageant for married women. I immediately asked my husband if I could give it a try, and he asked me to not think twice and go ahead. That’s how the journey to live my dream started.
SOS: Tell us more about the competition
NG: The pageant was called Glamour Gurgaon Mrs. Delhi NCR 2017, and was organized by Ms. Barkha Nangia and her team. All married ladies from all walks of life could take part in this competition to make their dreams come true, and show to the world that marriage can’t and shouldn’t be the end to your dreams.
Mrs. Nangia was very supportive, and I should rather say that she was the perfect mentor that I could ask for. Even after the pageant, she has been guiding me about moving ahead in this industry.
SOS: Did your father approve of your participation in the competition, or was he still apprehensive?
NG: I had wanted to keep my participation a secret from everyone in my family, but since the competition required me to stay away from my toddler son; I had to inform my parents. My father was not inclined towards the idea and tried to convince my husband against it, but he maintained his stand. I am blessed to have such a supportive husband.
SOS: About your mother, was she convinced?
NG: My mother she completely supported my decision and took care of my son for the days when I was away. She was supported by my sister and my husband as well.
SOS: And your in-laws?
NG: My in-laws were informed after I won the title, and they were happily surprised.
SOS: What all efforts did you do to win the pageant?
NG: I started my efforts from the first day itself, preparing for dance in my auditions, practicing ramp walk, and working on my looks etc.
SOS: What was the biggest challenge that you faced in this journey?
NG: The biggest challenge was being without my son for three to four days since it was the first time that I was to be away from him for so long. However, he understood his mummy’s dreams and was very cooperative throughout the competition, staying with his naani. I would really like to take a moment and thank my mother for being the constant pillar of support; without her, I could not have taken part in this competition, let alone win a title.
SOS: And your husband, what about his contribution?
NG: I don’t mention him separately because for the world we might be two bodies, but for ourselves, we are one soul. For any lady to be successful, it’s important to have the support of her husband, without which no woman can get the confidence of achieving her dreams.
I was able to focus on the competition only because I had the support of my husband.
SOS: Do you think it’s important for women to achieve her dreams?
NG: Yes, I think that a woman is a root that nurtures a family in every way, but if the root itself is somehow broken from the inside, the whole family would suffer.
Every woman should achieve her dreams because only then would we be able to guide our kids and others to follow their dreams too. It’s also important for a woman to follow her passion so that she can maintain her dignity and identity in the male-dominant world.
SOS: How have you started to think about others?
NG: After being crowned Mrs. Delhi NCR 2017, my thoughts changed about social work. I now donate things to needy people. I visit andh kanya ashram, and all this not for fame, but to earn good karma.
SOS: It was amazing talking to you Neetika. Thanks for the interaction.
NG: Thank you so much!